The little things that count...

A friend and I went shopping on the weekend.  We both decided we were in serious need of new underwear.  Having both previously been in long term relationships with the now very likely prospect of another man in our life, we realized how tatty we’d let our underwear become!  Funny how as we get more comfortable in a relationship, we start allowing ourselves to get more comfortable beneath our clothes.  Yes, comfort is key, but tatty is not. As women, we should take pride in what we wear.  I always find, if I feel sexy underneath my clothes, that sexiness transfers to the outside.  It doesn’t matter if anyone is going to see it or not, take pride in your under garments, even if only for yourself.  It could make the world of difference to how other people see you. 

… and happily-ever-afters.  And Romance.  And men with good old fashioned values. Don’t get me wrong.  I’m all for women’s rights and equal opportunity, but there’s something magical about a man who treats his woman like a princess.

I don’t mind winter too much.  The cold is never fun, but what I do love is the clothes– I find them to be quite stylish.  Its usually what’s worn underneath the top layer that is generally anything but sexy.  As I sit and type this, I’m wearing 3 pairs of socks – one of them being knee high thick woolen socks.  The other 2 are for warmth on my feet.  Unfortunately due to the thick socks, I find the soft material of my work pants sticks to them and start riding up – showing everyone my socks.   I try to stick to black socks with my black pants, but sometimes I forget and I wear my stripy pink or multi-colour stocks and its not a becoming look for the office.  Today I am also wearing my “big girl panties”… I’ve been wearing a figurative pair for a few weeks now, but today called for an actual pair of “Spanx”-type pants under my work pants (my butt cheeks get cold – very cold).  Nobody can see them (the Spanx), and hopefully nobody will (although I’m announcing it to anybody who may

It never ceases to amaze me how some people’s way of thinking goes a little astray… The saying “do unto others as you would have done unto you”… of course some people joke (or not) about it actually being “do unto others before they do unto you”…however some people seem to understand it to actually be “do unto others as others have done unto you”. The first works, the second two, however, do not. If somebody has wronged you… do you go out of your way to hurt somebody in the way that person hurt you… Does that sit well on your conscience? I couldn’t imagine it would. I’m a big believer in Karma… What goes around, comes around. Aren’t you just fuelling a vicious out of control fire… one that you started. You may blame the person who wronged you, but it was actually up to you to put that fire out when it burned you. But to take that fire, move it somewhere else, then add fuel, is just going to end in tragedy.

What makes somebody stay in a relationship where you know the other person isn’t in love with you… I can’t really answer because that. Is it because he said he loved you and you believed it? Did he ever mean it, or was it always a lie. And it he meant it, when did it start becoming a lie.