The little things that count...

My 18 year old daughter has spent most of the past 3 weeks with friends.   She came home last night for the first night in what seems forever (I saw her on Christmas day, and she was home 2 nights last week).   Her words “Hi Mommy. I missed you” were music to my ears. I like to know my kids are happy to see me and come home. A few nights ago she messaged me about her father. “He’s such an asshole” was how the conversation started. He had posted to her facebook timeline “Why can’t I get your mom here. Ask her” (all in caps lock). She deleted the message and didn’t reply to him.   And that is the very reason why I had to block him – he was always posting some crap on my timeline.   I told her to ignore him, and if he confronts her about it, he must phone me – he has my number!!! But he was probably drunk when he sent it. He recently took my son fishing along the side of the highway – a known dangerous spot (druggies, hoboes, murders etc).   She went to find him and told him o

Every artist/ performer and other creative person has come across this at least once in their life... The famous "we're offering you the perfect platform to show your talent... You'll be getting great exposure for your talent". Sound familiar? Either you've used it, or you've been on the receiving end.

That's a comment I've got a lot over the past few weeks.  I dyed my hair purple and cut it much shorter than it's been in years. It's really short (but not the first time I've gone so short). Amazing how doing that little thing has people telling me I'm brave.  It's hair.  It's not forever.  I can change it any time I want. It grows back. It does not have a lasting effect on my life.  But things I've experienced in my past have often had lasting effects. A friend said something that makes so much sense.  People are affected by what they see.  So my hair is "in their face" and a reality. Most people want courage to do things.  Maybe because I've experienced so much struggle that I've overcome, I find something like this easy to do.  I'm showing people that I'm courageous enough to face things.  Maybe people's reactions are less about aesthetics (they either love or hate it), and more about facing their own demons.